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Name: Shannon Ingram
Location: So CA

Musings of a woman who left her corporate career to become a caregiver for elderly parents, wrote a book and found her way back to corporate - but this time with love, instead of fear, leading the way.

Saturday, November 07, 2009

Oh Happy Day

The big Silverado Senior Living Four-Day Oboarding Training for new sales and marketing associates is over. It was a great culmination of many months of work for me and my team. Thankfully, we have more work now to tweak it and add what we learned may work even better before the next Onboarding in February, 2010.

How am I relaxing this weekend? Why, with my grandchildren of course! We went to lunch at BJ's Pizza and Brewery, played in the backyard ("Granny & Papa's Park") and now Kendall is napping while Keegan watches cartoons. Bindi Sue is asleep at Keegan's feet and Oscar Cat is behind them in his kitty condo. Beautiful, happy day at the Ingram's, feeling grateful for family and simplicity. Got some short ribs in the crock pot for dinner and some new books to read before bedtime. Life is good!

Monday, October 26, 2009

Career change advice #3 Shannon Ingram

Career change advice #3 Shannon Ingram

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Monday, October 12, 2009

Looking at Clouds from Both Sides Now



Clouds...I learned to appreciate them when I first heard the lyrics to Joni Mitchell's wonderful song, "Both Sides Now," as sung by Judy Collins in 1968. It helped me to enjoy cloudy days, which wasn't easy to do for a Southern California high school student who loved being outside in the sunshine. I began to study clouds, although not scientifically - just looking at them, especially at sunset, sunrise, or gazing out of a window on a plane. I frequently traveled by air when I was in my 20's and 30's, hopping on a jet to fly back and forth from Los Angeles to St. Thomas or Honolulu. Staring at the clouds from my window seat became a meditation. I love clouds.

Metaphorically, clouds have come to mean the challenges life throws at me from time to time. I think about planes having to circle around those big thunder bumpers. I feel that same way about dealing with yucky stuff such as family squabbles and my mom's little old white dog, Bailey, who continues to lift his leg on Mom's bed and other furniture, even the base of the toilet in her bathroom, which is a bit easier to clean. I'd rather circle around those issues, but often I just have to fly through the cloud and hope for the best. The other side of the "Bailey cloud" is that Mom adores him, and that makes us happy.

The photos are a beautiful fall sky above our backyard, complete with clouds, and of course, Mom and Bailey.

Wednesday, September 30, 2009

Gary Hates Mercury Retrograde


Thank goodness the recent period of Mercury Retrograde is over! This one was more challenging than usual for Gary, who hates the whole "concept" of the phenonmenon. Astrology is where you find the most information about Mercury's retrograde periods which happen about three times a year and are always about three weeks long. The planet slows it's orbit and appears to be going backwards, hence the term "retrograde." Astrologers and some physicists believe this has an impact on the earth's energy fields, especially those related to communication. Mercury rules communication, so lots of communication glitches seem to happen during these times. Computers crash. Car alarms go off in the middle of the night for no apparent reason. We can't remember where we parked our cars in a big lot. Our words get jumbled while we try to talk. Fender benders and weird kinds of accidents happen, most of which are not life-threatening, but can be extremely annoying.

Gary used to think it was hogwash. Over the years, though, he's learned that perhaps there is some merit to Mercury Retrograde theory, particularly as a rationale for all things more irritating than usual. Take his experience last week with a porta-potty.

Construction sites usually feature those wonderful blue portable "restrooms." Gary has one at a job he's currently managing. Well, last week he arrived for an early meeting and it had been knocked over, either by a car or by bratty teenagers in the neighborhood. Thankfully, it was "sealed" and nothing had leaked out to cause neighborhood evacuation. Gary called the porta-potty company to come set it up again.

Later that morning after Gary's meeting, it still wasn't upright, so he decided to be a hero for his construction workers in need. UNFORTUNATELY, as he was bringing it back into place, the door flew open and Gary was doused in sewage from his shorts to his shoes. He raced to a hose and tried his best to wash off, but ended up putting the shoes and socks in the back of his truck, then had to drive the 45 miles back home sitting on a plastic trash bag. When he got home, he promptly put his clothes in the garbage, his shoes in the washing machine with detergent and bleach, and took a very long, soapy shower. Then he sanitized his truck and finally, drove back to work.

When he got home that night, he actually had a drink with me, and we toasted Mercury. He's a believer now!

Thursday, September 24, 2009

Back to Business & YOU





Wow. What a great time we had at the UCLA Conference Center at Lake Arrowhead participating in yet another fantastic "Business & YOU" (B&Y) weekend workshop. It's always fun to reconnect with our old friends and acquaintances from the B&Y network, and always rewarding to share the excitement of such powerful information with people we just met. It's been over 10 years since Gary first attended B&Y, and almost 25 years since I went to "Money & YOU" at Makaha on the Hawaiian Island of Oahu. It's as amazing today as it was then. The information is new, thanks to the massive changes of the past quarter-century, especially in technology. The Blocks Game has "evolved." The results are always enlightening, if not downright transformational.

I loved spending time with my B&Y "family." Besides Gary, it now includes Jim Mikula and Ruth Ann Hattori, pictured above with daughter Sydney and another precious friend-like-family, Allen Mann, and with Jeff Perlis and Trev Pelzer (also pictured). Friends from our church, The Center for Spiritual Living/Orange County, attended this time - Christie Shulbin, pictured with Gary, and Marguerite and Dovell Bonnett.

It's fun to assess something new I've learned every time I go to a B&Y weekend. This time, my learning was all about INNOVATION and SERVICE. First innovation...I know that innovation cannot thrive in an environment where fear is a dominant emotion and permeates everything, whether it's a company, an office, a non-profit Board, a family or a single mind. Let me clarify that fear sometimes causes innovation to happen as a rejection of the fear. But innovation is driven by a quest for love, mastery, alignment and synergy. Silverado Senior Living has an operating philosophy of "Love > Fear." It's a foundation for our marketing strategy of innovation. I can see that more clearly after picking up some key distinctions this past weekend.

Next, service. I have a big ego. Most of us do, especially the people who say they do not, in my experience. At B&Y, I like to be in the training room, soaking up all the information along with the participants, even when I'm on the staff. I've been the staff logistics coordinator dozens of times and loved that leadership role. One of the most important staff jobs is to take care of the break food and beverages, and the person who does that has to be out of the room much of the weekend, attending to the veggies, fruits, crackers, iced tea, water, etc. The hardest job on staff is doing the music. I tried that once and decided it's just not the right job for my skills and talents.

This past weekend, I was offered the job of Music, and I turned it down, based on my previous challenges in that position. I recommended the workshop organizers invite Marcelo Soares, a young man I work with who took B&Y last March, to come and work the music, knowing he would enjoy reviewing the course, too. Marcelo, also pictured above, accepted the volunteer staff job instantly when they called him - and of course, he was fantastic. When I arrived on Friday morning, I was told I would be doing the food. For a split second, I think I may have winced, knowing I'd be out of the room for hours all weekend. And then my mind slipped back into memories of good times doing food at other workshops and how much I had learned about being of quiet service to others. Truly, it made for a magical weekend for me. I visited with participants who came to the break room to partake of the goodies (but didn't discuss the workshop, nor did I talk about what I do in "real life"). My ego settled into acceptance and I loved every minute of the work. And going with that flow seems to have allowed me to be in the room for some of the things I "needed to learn," like the information about innovation.

It was a fabulous weekend with a wondrous, committed and aligned staff - people who go back to their jobs as Assistant County Treasurer, President of a highly successful Oregon seminar business, Resort Hotel Manager, ER/Trauma Physician, owner/president of Maui's largest independent catering and party rentals companies, Contractor/Certified Aging in Place Specialist, Production & Traffic Manager, Real Estate Brokerage Owner, Retired President of Major Clothing Company/Innovation Consultant, and Director of Marketing of world-class senior care company. We checked our egos at the door and created a great experience for the participants. And it just doesn't get any better than that.

Finally, I feel deeply grateful to Marshall Thurber, David Neenan, Jim and Ruth Ann, who have created and continuously refined this workshop to make it the very best there is. And to Carol Maero Fetzer, Dan Fetzer, Dwight O'Neil, Bob Bender, Sharon Neenan and Allen, who have been the lights in the back of the room, producing the workshop over the years, or serving as logistics coordinators, showing the way for people like me.

Friday, September 04, 2009

The Silverado Martini



OK, everyone, how cool is this? Last week Silverado hosted about 50 family members and friends for a party at The Peninsula Hotel in Beverly Hills to celebrate the pre-opening of our new community, Silverado Beverly Place. The party was called "A Silver Soiree." Our new Administrator, Phill Barklow, being a brilliant marketer AND former bartender, suggested we have a "signature cocktail" for the event. He came up with one and the Hotel's beverage manager was so impressed with the tasty concoction that they put it on the bar menu at the Peninsula! Here it is.....

THE SILVERADO MARTINI

One ounce of Ketel One Citron Vodka
One ounce fresh squeezed Lemon Juice
2 table spoons simple syrup (can use sugar to substitute)
3 ounces Champagne (Moet White Star seems to work best)
½ ounce of Chambord

Of course it goes into a chilled glass with sugared rim, and is served with a twist of lemon on the side of the glass - and in the case of our party, the outside edge of the twist had been dipped in silver! AMAZING. You can get it at the Peninsula for just $16; however they may be raising the price to $20 and donating $4 of every drink purchased to the Alzheimer's Association. I thought the ice sculpture of our logo (also pictured) was the coolest thing (pun intended) until I realized having a Silverado Signature Martini lasts longer.

Wednesday, August 26, 2009

Creepy Crank Callers

Both Gary and I have been working practically 24/7 the past couple of weeks. He rises early and is out the door by 4:30 AM. I get up a bit later. He goes to bed around 8:30. I go to bed a LOT later. If we are lucky, we have dinner together and watch "Wheel of Fortune." We've both been working weekends, too - either on the real job stuff or the volunteer job stuff. Last night I discovered that we do indeed need to spend more time with each other.

While I was at a WomanSage Board Meeting, Gary received a call on his cell phone from an anonymous creep who made some nasty comments about Gary and me. It was very disturbing for Gary and when I came home, he let me know how upset he was. Thankfully, we communicate quite well after all these years, and we were able to get through the storm of negative emotions, albeit with some minor scars.

Both of us stayed awake most of the night trying to figure out who would make such a call. Who would know that kind of information, have Gary's phone number and be with a group of laughing men when the call was placed? Who would think that was funny? Who could be so immature and mean? Clearly, it's not for us to know at this point. An old friend of mine, Sue, wrote on my Facebook wall, "Look at it this way, you wake up in the morning, look in the mirror and you're not them! You're ahead!"

One thing this experience has awakened in my mind is what it's like to be hazed or stalked by someone you don't know who makes hurtful or untrue allegations seem true. I thought about the young girl who committed suicide by hanging herself after being plagued by mean messages on her MySpace page - messages that her family later discovered were left by the mother of one of her teenage girlfriends.

It's good to be able to suck it up and move on. But some people are more fragile than Gary and I are, and a message such as the one we got could have had more dire consequences. Shame on you, whoever you are. What goes around comes around...